As I explained in my previous post, my subservient position within my marriage is reflected in my choice of career and workplace because it is just one of my jobs. My other job, of course, is househusband. My marriage to my wife has progressed to the point where it is my responsibility to clean, do laundry, and shop for food and supplies (she shops too, but for clothes). If I don’t do it, nobody will. My wife has not ironed in years, and I’m not sure she could turn our vacuum on if she needed to. Which is OK, because she doesn’t need to. She has trained her submissive husband to do these things for her, and I’m only too happy to do this.
Taking on additional responsibilities might seem hard, but in reality it’s quite easy. All you have to do is think of yourself as taking on a part-time job.
Where most men (and even some women) might consider this a nightmare, it is a blessing for both my wife and I, and I am happy to take it on. Our house is always ready for friends to drop by, and we never argue over chores. If the work is not done to her satisfaction, it is repeated to her satisfaction in a clothing-optional manner (she generally chooses the clothing option for herself, and the no-clothing option for me). There is no stress, no confusion, and no sense of dread. The laundry needs to be done? I’ll do it.
The reason I’m able to do all of this, however, is that I think of it like a job. It’s just a second job for me, and I’m lucky that my first one is only 40 hours because it leaves time to do everything I need to do. Sometimes I run out of time and have to skip things, like moving laundry day back a day, but generally there is time. The thing is that I had to choose to make this time, and that reflects the fact that my duties as a househusband are as important as my regular job. Sure, i get paid more for my day job, but in submitting to my wife I have agreed to take on a second one just the same.
Housework is stressful not because it’s in any way mentally challenging, but because there are so many other things we would rather be doing. But when you treat housework like the part-time job that it is, you stop being stressed. I need to spend two to three hours per weeknight cleaning, cooking, doing laundry, and all the other things that need to be done. On the weekend, there are approximately five to six hours of things that need to be done. On a busy week, it’s not unheard of to spend 25 hours doing these things. But then there are some other weeks where it’s only 15. You deal with it.
If I spent all that time thinking about how much more fun it would be to play video games or watch TV or eat potato chips, I wouldn’t like it. But being a househusband is my part-time job. Every time I wish I was doing something else but consciously choose to get back to scrubbing the bathroom, I have a pang of submissive feeling. This is the essense of submission to your wife’s priorities.
One final note: my wife doesn’t watch over me like a boss. That would be making more work for her, which would defeat the purpose.
Submitting to your wife will probably mean you do more work than you do now. But as with most things, doing more work brings with it greater rewards.