After nearly 10 months of enforced orgasm control, in which my wife totally decides everything about our sex life, my wife is completely happy with our sex life and is generally seeing an improvement in my behavior as a submissive husband. I will add my experience to the many, many couples who find that chastity and orgasm
control is essential to a husband’s submission to his wife’s dominant nature. Here are some things I have learned over the past few months:
- Sex will be about quality, not quantity. She doesn’t want sex as often as a guy might, but when she wants it, she wants my complete attention for at least an hour.
- Your role changes. You’re still a partner, but you’re only thinking about where to massage her, where to kiss her, where to touch her. You eventually learn that your own sexual fulfillment is to be ignored.
- You feel sexual pleasure in making her happy. Every moan from her is an ecstatic experience for me. Her orgasm causes intense satisfaction for me.
- My wife gets very little from penetrative sex. Sometimes she will have me penetrate her just to tease me, but the pleasure for her is in my disappointment when she tells me I have to pull out, rather than anything I’m doing for her. When she wants an orgasm with penetration, she uses her rabbit to give her a clitoral orgasm. She says she doesn’t miss my cock being inside her, because it just feels like stretching and pounding. In all the best sex we have had over the past year, nothing has gone inside her.
- If you are truly attuned to your wife, you will learn to pick up on much more subtle cues about what she wants. If you give her what she wants, you’re doing your job. If what she wants is cuddles, you should know that and give her cuddles. Don’t try to get anything more–if you’re being kept chaste, you’ll just be disappointed, even if she decides she wants to orgasm. She doesn’t want you to orgasm.
- Pleasuring your wife is more important than what you’re doing. The wife may want sex at any time, and you should sacrifice your interests–even getting your chores done on time–to please her. If you have to delay urgent chores, make her cum and put her to sleep, then work off your pent up sexual energy in scrubbing the shower.
- Being relaxed is so important, but being horny makes you uptight. When you have not had an orgasm in over a month, a cold shower can be more relaxing than a warm one!
- Let your wife do nice things for you. My wife likes massaging me, kissing me all over, toying with my ass, and teasing my cock.
- Keep your underwear on! It’s a constant reminder of your role.
As I mentioned a long time ago, my wife prefers that I not use a chastity device. She believes that causing me to use my self-control and self-discipline to avoid orgasms instills a greater sense of obedience. If you wear a device, your wife has more options for teasing you, and you will be able to focus more on your wife’s pleasure. I’m happy with her decision to skip the device, but am willing to wear one if asked.