I ended up doing a lot of cooking, cleaning, and laundry this past weekend. It’s just the way things worked out. As I wrapped it all up on Sunday night, I felt a real sense of pride. My wife had been out all day, and knowing that I had finished the laundry, cleaned the house, and had dinner nearly finished was a great feeling for me. I love that she could just come home, lay out on the couch, fire up her iPad, and have me hand her a glass of wine. I could see that it made my wife happy, and the satisfaction I get from making her happy is so far beyond any satisfaction I could have gotten from playing video games or watching sports all afternoon.
I started thinking about what else I like about being obedient and subservient to my wife.
I like that each of us has a place, and that we don’t have to apologize to each other for the ways we’re not equal, or identicial. My wife doesn’t have to apologize for being a princess, or for being demanding or critical. That’s how she is, and in her place, it’s completely her right not just to act that way, but to have it be completely her right to do so. She sat on the sofa for most of Saturday while I did chores, baked cookies, and changed loads of laundry. It’s not that she doesn’t have to apologize for this, it’s that she doesn’t even have to feel anything about it. For my part, I like that I can follow her lead and do as I’m told. I don’t have to think too much, since there are rules that I have to follow.
I like that, in addition to being submissive, I can also be feminine. I strongly disagree with the connection society draws between femininity and submissiveness. However, I find it extremely fulfilling and confidence-inspiring to express myself in a feminine way, as well as in a subservient way. In this relationship, I can do this with the guidance of an actual female.
I like that it’s impossible for either of us to “cheat” on the other. My wife has access to my entire social media presence, including this blog, as well as our bank accounts. It’s not normal in our relationship for me to be out of touch with her when she wants to contact me. On the flip side, our relationship means that if my wife wanted to have a lover, she would be able to do this. I would expect her to discuss this fact with me and be transparent about it, but she would have every right to do so.
I like that the house is always clean, dinner is always cooked, the laundry is always folded and put away. The shopping is done, the car is taken care of, errands are run, and bills are paid. There’s no question about who is doing it and when. I also like that my wife doesn’t have to be bothered with any of it, besides deciding when and how I am to do it.
I like that our sex life is, in essence, her sex life, and that mine has been formed around that. I like that, due to chastity, my libido no longer rules my decision making.
I like that the important things about our relationship, like where we might move to or when we have children, are primarily my wife’s decision. We have been talking about having kids, and I’m definitely ready to start a family, but she has decided we’re not ready to. I accept her leadership and work to prepare for the time when she says we are ready.
I like the little moments when my wife points out the differences between us, or takes advantage of her power over me in gratuitous ways. I like the little moments when I can take the extra step to show that she is loved and supported by her husband. I like making little sacrifices that increase her happiness and satisfaction.
I like that when I don’t live up to her expectations, there are consequences. Those consequences are clear, administered promptly, and are designed to ensure the behavior doesn’t occur again. It’s humiliating to be punished by your wife, but she has this power over me. I gave it to her freely, but I can’t freely take it back. What matters is that it makes me a better husband–which means, it makes me more like the husband she wants me to be.
These are some of the things I like about being submissive and obedient to my wife. I’m thankful that I can serve her, and look forward to growing in my submission as she grows in her dominance.